Make Sure You Understand the True Costs
No one wants to think or talk about divorce, but the reality is, it does happen. Many people who plan to get divorced hold the misconception that they will be able to maintain their current financial lifestyle.
“Two can live as one” As the old saying goes. While it can be true, the norm is that divorce is extremely expensive. Not only lawyer fees, but now there are two separate households which must be maintained. Both households will have separate utility bills, property taxes, maintenance fees, etc. If you had two incomes covering expenses, now there will be only one per household.
Even if both people downgrade homes, it’s still going to be more expensive than they realize. Student loans, credit-card balances and other debts are now the sole responsibility can be one person, instead of two.
Studies show most divorces are caused by financial stress. Now, unfortunately, a divorce could compound that stress and lead to a messy divorce instead of hopefully an amicable one. Macropodia data shows the hidden costs of divorce reduce assets by 50% and that divorce is the biggest cause of women applying for welfare.
Nearly half of all American families fall into poverty after a divorce.
Its not just financial problems, but psychological and emotional problems can arise. Divorce can lead to depression, anxiety and other mental and emotional problems that affect the persons ability to work and live normally. Often this leads to required expensive psychological and psychiatric help. Plus, there are added hidden expenses if there are children.
By age 50, couples still married have nearly four times the amount of assets than comparable couples who divorced. Marriage therapist Kenneth Elliott says couples should strongly consider if a divorce is the right option.
Most couples divorce over financial problems not realizing that financial problems can be fixed, Elliott said. They should look at ways to fix their finances before getting divorced whether that be working with a budgeting professional, financial planner, debt consolidation company or accountant. If they can successfully ride out the financial turbulence most couples will find that they no longer want to get divorced. Long-term, rekindling a marriage is far less costly and stressful than jumping into a divorce.
If a couple decides to get divorced, they should do everything to make it amicable. It’s best to always a consult an attorney and, ideally, the couples should work to make the event as compatible as possible.
There are also alternative places to seek help such as web-based www.WeVorce.com. WeVorce offers self-guided divorce solutions that can help couples get divorced in less than 30 days, provide financial mapping to so couples can see the true costs and provide divorce documents that are court-compliant.
A web-based service may be far cheaper way to get divorced, but they often require more personal work and itâ€™s only beneficial for couples seeking an amicable divorce.
Remember, the more drama in your relationship, the more expensive it is going to be. Try to salvage a marriage if you can. If you can’t, do it the right way: have a cool head and an honest inventory of how it will affect finances and life.
Remember: Assets, including retirement accounts, will be split, so plan accordingly.